Has something stressful or upsetting happened to you recently? Maybe it was a fender bender car accident, or telling a friend she did something that hurt you, or being triggered by something your spouse said, or stepping on stage to make a presentation. Even when you are following what lights you up and creating more of what you truly want in life, not every moment of every day will be filled with ease, joy, and pleasure. Each of us has moments, situations, and experiences that stress and upset us. What can you do to help yourself during those times? How can you calm yourself until you gain more perspective to effectively deal with the situation? Use your personal 911! What Is a Personal 911? 911 is the phone number we call in the U.S. when we have an emergency and need help fast. We don’t have to figure out what kind of help is needed or which number to call; we already know if we have any kind of emergency, dial 911. The 911 dispatcher sends the police, fire department, or medical responders; the right help is quickly on its way. 911 is an easy and effective emergency system. What about when you have a more personal “emergency?” You can’t call the community 911 system just because you’re stressed, jarred, upset, anxious, angry, or afraid and want some relief and help quickly. But you can call on your own personal 911. Your personal 911 is a sentence, phrase or word you say to yourself during trying times, something designed to ease and calm you. Your 911 is simple and easy so you can use it anytime and anywhere. You choose it in advance and use it as your first, immediate response when you are stressed and upset. No need to think about it; as soon as you realize you need personal emergency help, you just start saying it. Your personal 911 will provide some quick relief, reducing your stress and calming you. Once you’re calmer, you can then take whatever additional actions are needed to help yourself and to deal with the situation. Would One of These Work For You? I just used a personal 911 myself. I was meeting a friend for breakfast and I had something to discuss that was difficult for me. Anticipating the conversation stirred me up; I was agitated and anxious, my mind was racing. To calm myself, I used one of my personal 911s: “I choose peace.” I kept saying this to myself over and over and over again. I was able to shift some of my attention from the thoughts that were upsetting me to more soothing thoughts. Did it make my problem disappear? No, but I was able to become much calmer than I had been. This felt better plus it allowed me to have a more effective conversation with my friend than I would have had if I’d been completely agitated. Here are a few examples of personal 911s I and others have used: * I choose peace. * I choose love. * I choose serenity. * I choose joy. * I choose love over fear. * Everything is perfect. * All is well. * God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference. While you’re saying the words, you could also do a grounding technique such as pressing your feet firmly on the floor, rubbing your palms together, or deep breathing. Many people also add a homeopathic aid such as Bach’s Rescue Remedy. In Your Life If you’d like to experiment with this the next time you’re stressed or upset, here are some suggestions. 1) Choose your 911 now. You’ve probably heard people say “I can hardly think straight!” Science has now shown that, in fact, we can’t think clearly under certain conditions. When you are flooded with feelings and physiological stress responses you’ll have a very hard time figuring out how to help yourself. Have your emergency response prepared so it’s ready when you need it. Then, in the midst of a stressful situation, you won’t have to figure out what to do — you just start saying your 911! 2) Choose something that will work for you. There is not a universal personal 911 that will work best for everybody. Your most effective 911 will speak strongly to you: be powerful and meaningful enough for you that it will calm you, shift your attention, and switch your perspective. It may be one of the examples above or it may be something completely different. 3) Use it! When you’re feeling stressed or upset, use your 911. Repeat it over and over, like a mantra. If you start with the little things, the stuff that’s mildly upsetting, you can build your ability to use this in tougher situations as well. Your personal 911 is a simple tool to add to your life toolkit. You can quickly and easily call on it when you’re in situations that challenge you. Using your personal 911 will reduce your stress, calm you, and allow you to more effectively respond to the situation. Enjoy!

Listen to yourself say these French words: Salut Comment-allez vous А demain Bonne nuit Adieu How did you do in terms of pronunciation? Let’s change the approach this time. Imagine you are talking to a French speaking person. Use these words in response to the French questions and phrases he throws at you. Were you able to remember these words easily? Were you able to use these words without so much difficulty? They say the French language is one of the most difficult language to learn. This is the most common misconception of the many European languages. There is nothing more difficult than not trying at all. But let’s all face the reality here. When one grows up as a person speaking an entirely different language, adapting and learning to another one such as French is going to be more than just a hobby. It’s more like a lesson from school with daily or weekly assignments to answer. Many students of the French language would eventually quit at the middle of a course because of the lack of confidence with themselves. They say the French language is just too difficult to say and pronounce when the French speakers struggle with the same mishap on the process of learning English or other languages. Fluency of the language is one of the reasons why learning is given up. If you try to think about it, being fluent with a language doesn’t really have a definite standard. As the word itself is defined as “spoken or written with ease”. It basically means when you are at ease in using and speaking the French language according to the best way you know how, you can go ahead and consider yourself fluent in this field. Though for others, you may speak a little too well of the French language or maybe not too good, what matters is that you know how to read, write, speak the and listen to French language without thinking so much about what it means in your native language. It’s as easy as saying you can survive one night of stay in a French community without having to check your dictionary or hiring a translator. As a French student, what you need to focus on at this point is the way you understand the language. Different people have different approach to understand the language and it is all up to you how you apply it for your own convenience.

I haven’t got time to relax – really? Have you got time not too? Being able to relax is important to achieving optimal performance and health. You name it; being relaxed will increase your productivity in it. If you’re not relaxed, everything you do will be a struggle. Relaxation provides mind-body integration necessary for peak performance. It is important to relax to get your mind clear and your body tension free; to regain focus and to cool down and to help return to a balanced physical state. Relaxation is vital for a healthy mind and is required to maintain motivation and interest in our lives and careers. Not being able to relax and unwind can be damaging to your health. Even when there are huge demands on your life, you may have a large family, an important career, and a home amongst your other weekly commitments – it is still necessary to find your own time and space to relax. It is very important that throughout the day we find time to relax. Twenty minutes, two or three times a day, is preferred. If you can’t manage twenty minutes, it’s important to realise that whatever amount of time you do manage to get to relax will be beneficial to your mind and body, even if not noticeably so. When time is short there are a number of things you can do: reading, writing, daydreaming or just sitting quietly. Quite often what ever you do to relax will be personal and work for you, so you need to find what works best. As a Life Coach I have worked with numerous people with issues relating to relaxation and stress etc. It’s interesting that initially many find it difficult to slow down and see the benefits of taking more time out. However after a few weeks and a couple of life coaching sessions focused on this area, and a bit of commitment on their part, most change their ways and wax lyrical about the benefits to their lives. Some of the common benefits of relaxation are: • It improves your ability to concentrate. It will help you in your ability to tune out distractions and gives you better sensory awareness. • It improves body awareness; you need to know when you are under or over doing it. • It speeds up healing time following an injury and fatigue, the body needs to recover fully if it’s going to perform at an optimal level in the near future. • Learning is enhanced, it is much easier to introduce new thoughts and ideas when your mind is clear and you are relaxed. Skills are best learned when you are in a relaxed state and there is an absence of tension. • It helps you sleep better • You become more efficient • It puts your focus back on the present and gives you a sense of control • It increases energy If you don’t take the time to unwind and relax regularly, you might be putting not only your own health and well-being at risk but also that of others as well. In relation to your responsibility to the health and safety of others; we only have to think of driving a car, or operating machinery, and how our ability to do these tasks diminishes when we are tense, tired and stressed. So in fact our responsibility to relax is not just for our own sake but also for that of others. With regards to our own health and emotional well-being, if we don’t make time to relax regularly we are putting our health and mental health at risk of failure. Some of the effects of lack of relaxation are below: • Headache, common ones being tension headaches and migraines. Controlling tension and relaxing can help migraines. Tension headaches are susceptible by definition to treatment by relaxation. • Chronic fatigue, your body is in a total sate of fatigue. You suffer from total lack of energy and motivation all of the time. • Cardiovascular disorders, high blood pressure and heart disease, heart attack. • Gastrointestinal problems, diarrhoea, constipation and stomach ulcers as well as indigestion and heartburn. • Poor immune system, becoming susceptible to illness Early warning signs that we need to have a break and relax are: • Yawning/sighing • Lack of concentration • Feeling the urge to stretch and move about • General drop in performance • Feelings of stress and irritability • Performing uncommon errors • Tiredness If we are aware of the signs and take notice of them and take a break etc, you could avoid a lot of stress and fatigue, you will be more rational and focused, and better equipped to carry on, and be far healthier. Spending a lifetime of ignoring the signs could impact heavily, not only on your health, well-being and happiness but also those around you. Relationships could suffer as well as your career. On a personal note, the consequences of not taking time to relax over a lifetime could mean you pay the ultimate price. You say you don’t have time to relax. I say you don’t have time not too. You are your own best resource; you need to take time to nurture and look after yourself.

Jealousy is a kind of feeling, which develops when a person believes that his/her valued relationship is threatened by some kind of insecurity. It mainly comes because of the insecurity of the jealous person. The causes of jealousy are more mental than physical. The feeling of jealousy is also considered to be a negative emotion and there are mainly two causes, which lead to jealousy. The first cause of jealousy can be attributed to the insecurity problem, which is mostly seen in such cases. This mainly happens when you are too sensitive by nature and often feel unsecured about the future. Often it is seen that marital relations come to an end because of this particular feeling of jealousy. Communication is the root cause of jealousy in marital life. You should sort things out with your partner before things worsen to the core. You need to sit and discuss issues with your partner rather than assume things in worst possible way. However there’s times when you may not even know why jealousy is a part of your life or you’re actually emoting jealousy so often. In fact the situation could be such that you don’t even realize that you are so jealous. Whether through self-realization or with the help of outside help you begin to pay attention to your jealous traits, it’s time you do something about it. Because in due course of time this will worsen your relationship with many loved ones around you. Don’t let your insecurities bring about your end. Overcoming jealousy is no longer so difficult. It’s a pathological or mental condition that can go a long way in bringing about great disturbance in your physical well being. Help yourself today. If you think it’s a problem that will just resolve itself, no it wont. You need to be able to get out of the jealous trip and Hypnosis will be just right for you. Yes hypnosis, if you thought it was just a concept that you watched in movies and that the crystal maze was just for the heck of it, well it’s time you think again. Hypnosis is a contemporary treatment option but has been around from the early days. It was always used as a parallel source of treatment in varied societies. Uncover the power of hypnosis in overcoming jealousy. Download your version and get started right away the benefits are many and you’ll learn along the way. The best thing being you don’t have to spend time going for sessions and trying to schedule your treatment into your busy life. You can begin your betterment right at home. This will help you regain confidence and better your relationship with those around you, especially siblings and loved ones. Of course, deciding to face your jealousy head on can be a very daunting experience, however it is not as daunting as not doing anything about it and effectively choosing to spend every day with it for the rest of your life!

How you see yourself upon the inside, i.e. yourself image, will affect your self-esteem of the degree that this self-image differs from your ideals. The way in which you image yourself involves thinking and believing and is sometimes termed the self concept. Exactly how you communicate to your nervous system how you would look, how you would feel, the kind of self talk that will go on between your ears, doing this with consistent vivid detail, and you’ll find that your self-esteem raises with or without your desire for higher self-esteem. That means you also get the advantages. Here is a very simple way to raise your self-esteem effectively: using the power of affirmations. You can do this verbally and you can also use a mirror to make it more effective. You can even use a pen and paper to do affirmations in writing and you can also use more than just the “I” pronoun, i.e. you can also use “(s)he” and “you” whilst saying affirmations. “I am getting more and more healthy” “He is getting more and more healthy” “You are getting more and more healthy” The author Brian Tracy cites that one particular affirmation is especially effective in raising self-esteem and also another one of the same authors affirmations will also be used as an example. These will be discussed below. If you use a multitude of repetitions when saying your self-esteem affirmations and you attach strong feeling to the affirmations, they will have a more profound effect in allowing you to produce excellent results in your life quickly Speaking your affirmations or recording them onto a tape and then listening to them throughout the day, or doing affirmations in writing will allow you to program your unconscious so that you end up with a new revised self concept — that is to say you refresh the things that you believe about you by consciously choosing new, positive, empowering beliefs. It is not a pre-requisite that you strongly believe that using self esteem affirmations is going to have benefits for you. But if you have the willpower to carry on saying your affirmations even if it’s just for one single time, to the extent that you press on further than the plateau of time where you stop wanting to say your affirmations, because it gets uncomfortable invariably — you are challenging your beliefs after all — then this is the way to get fast, effective and powerful results. Just keep on and on at your unconscious and eventually you are guaranteed to get it. An example of this is if you are using the affirmation “I am joyous” in order to give yourself a lift in the amount of joy that you are experiencing, or simply to become more available to the feeling of joy. And for this example, you would continually say as you’re affirmation, “I am joyous” over and over, like a mantra. You can say your affirmations anywhere you like, even when driving a car, unless for example you’re using the affirmation, “relax…get comfortable…close your eyes and go to sleep” to cure your insomnia. Here’s a tip that can make you affirmations even more effective. I learned this from a very successful stock market investor. Say your affirmations to yourself using a piece of reflective glass — i.e. a mirror. Look deeply into your own eyes and say your affirmations with utmost sincerity. Try this and you will be surprised at the speed at which you begin to get results with affirmations. The onus is on you remember, when you start tell yourself it’s not working, to push on through and reach the breakthrough part. Getting past this skepticism that we all have at first is a challenge. But, if you’ve got this far in this article, I know you’re the kind of person who’s got the commitment level to do this and do it well. I found when using affirmations, I get the same sort of pleasure chemical release that I also get after a 30 minute or one hour job. My body seems to reward me with endorphins when I carry on saying my affirmations right through to the time where I’m going to break through no matter what. In fact the last part of that sentence is a good affirmation. “I’m going to breakthrough no matter what.” that one will bring up courage, persistence and determination. But let’s not get sidetracked from self-esteem. What are the number one and number two affirmations for raising self-esteem?