There is to be found in every religion the manifestation of this struggle towards freedom. It is the groundwork of all morality,of unselfishness, which means getting rid of the idea that men are the same as their little body. When we see a man doing good work, helping others, it means that he cannot be confined within the limited circle of “me and mine”. There is no limit to this getting out of selfishness. All the great systems of ethics preach absolute unselfishness as the goal. Supposing this absolute unselfishness can be reached by a man,what becomes of him? He is no more the little Mr. So – and -so; he has acquired infinite expansion. The little personality which he had before is now lost to him for ever; he has become infinite, and the attainment of this infinite expansion is indeed the goal of all religions and of all moral and philosophical teachings. The personalist, when he hears this idea philosophically put, gets frightened. At the same time, if he preaches morality, he after all teaches the very same idea himself. He puts no limit to the unselfishness of man. Suppose a man becomes perfectly unselfish under the personalistic system, how are we to distinguish him from the perfected ones in other systems? He has become one with the universe and to become that is the goal of all; only the poor personalist has not the courage to follow out his own reasoning to its right conclusion. Karma-Yoga is the attaining through unselfish work of that freedom which is the goal of all human nature. Every selfish action, therefore, retards our reaching the goal, and every unselfish action takes us towards the goal; that is why the only definition that can be given of morality is this: That which is selfish is immoral, and that which is unselfish is moral. To get more information visit : http://www.spiritual-simplicity.com
Most successful people are those who always try to look things from the positive point of view. They are unlikely to get stressed. They can always find solutions to their problems. And those who are not positive enough, are likely to get stressed easily and find it hard to solve problems. Which group would you like to be in? I’d choose the first one, for sure. And I bet no one prefers the second one. Here are some little known ways to be a positive person: • Throw away all your negative thoughts Don’t let a single second of your time is used to think of something negative. If it suddenly cross to your mind, direct your thought to something else. Even if it’s hard on the first days, later you’ll get used to it. • Focus more on your achievements than your failure Everyone must have had experienced success and failure. Yet, don’t focus too much on your failure. You can learn from it but don’t let it turn you down. I bet you also have had lots of success. For example, you might have been the best in class when it came to history papers. Or, you were once the best employee of the month, etc. • Get a mantra Even if you’re not a magician, you are allowed to have a mantra. It can be ‘I’m a great writer’ or ‘I am very good in web designing’ or ‘I am a happy person.’ When you wake up in the morning, spell your mantra at least three times and use your imagination. A simple yet useful trick! • Grab energy from successful and positive people around you Learn from them. You are who your friends are. So, try to be their good friends. • Stop being judgmental to yourself and others Yes, don’t be so hard on yourself and on others.
When it comes to finding a good hypnotherapist, it’s much the same as anything else. You need to use the resources at your disposal and apply a certain amount of common sense along the way. As a professional, there’s no greater compliment than a referral. If someone recommends me to another potential client, it’s because they’ve had a good, positive experience in working with me and their therapy has been successful. That’s indicative that I’m doing something right. From the potential client’s perspective, it’s immediately comforting to be referred to someone. It’s like some of the research has already been done for them. But even with a good referral, there are other considerations, and anyone seeking to connect with a hypnotherapist should take appropriate measures in assuring they are working with the right hypnotist. Sourcing them out shouldn’t be very complicated. You’ll likely be able to compile a starting list from browsing the internet. I would then encourage clients to get informed, and compare services. For instance, you might find several hypnotherapy clinics in your area, and not be able to identify any differences at first glance. You should investigate their inner workings just a bit. It’s okay to telephone them and ask questions, just conduct a little fact-finding mission. Consider things like whether the hypnotist is a full-time professional or whether they are just sort of moonlighting at this activity. Do they have an office or are they working from their living room? What about the services they offer. Is he/she making unrealistic promises? Are their rates suspiciously lower than average? Check out credentials and qualifications. Are they a member of professional association, a reputable one? These are a few examples of the sorts of things you can investigate, but a lot of times, your judgment will come straight from your gut feeling. If you can visit and possibly meet a therapist in person first, you may find that all the other variables are irrelevant because you felt you had an instant connection with that person, and you would be very comfortable working with them. If you do get a chance to meet a hypnotherapist before you decide to work with him or her, you can investigate their approach, and see if you are comfortable in how they plan and execute their work. Personally, I have no set pattern of conduct in place. Sure there are general procedures which help me get the therapy started on track, but after the initial orientation, I like to think that I’m flexible and adaptable enough to customize my therapy for the specific unique needs of each of my clients. Initially, I like to spend time chatting with a new client so that I can identify their cause of concern, or what it is they want to achieve. Then I investigate their willingness or inclination to work together as a team. I also like to get their impression of hypnosis before we start, so that I know what I’m working with in terms of myths or beliefs, etc. It’s important to go into this with realistic expectations so I need to get some indication of what the person has in their head in terms of expectations. After that initial process, it’s more about the specifics of that client. We can start to explore the problem. This process is really about having the client take a look deep inside himself. It’s important at this stage that I am extremely flexible, because I don’t want to lead the client in any way. It’s their own personal journey, I am just a facilitator. What people usually expect when they first come into it, is a brief chat of a few minutes, then a typical session including an induction, deepener, suggestion, and then bring them back. They will typically expect a few minutes of chatting afterwards. That’s normal and it’s very common practice for most professional hypnotherapists. There’s nothing set in stone in terms of approach or technique. There really isn’t a set prescription for a specific problem. Even if I have two clients with the same problem, I wouldn’t apply some sort of generic therapy. I would treat each case as an individual case, because it is. What works for one client might not at all work for the other, so it’s imperative to be open and flexible and adaptable. Interpretation skills are extremely useful and important here as well. I want to be able to make a determination based on what I interpret from what the client has told me. I want to hear what they’re telling me and also read what they aren’t saying. I need to determine the best course of action for that client based on what I believe, and what I determine from them. The best quality in a good hypnotherapist is likely his or her ability to be flexible and apply a treatment that is as unique as the client in from of him.
Nail Biting is a habit where a person usually bites their fingernails or toenails. This maybe because a person is feeling bored, nervous, stressed or he/she maybe hungry. The reasons are varied. Excessive nail biting is a sign of mental or emotional disorder. This habit can be compulsive and a person maybe busy nail biting unconsciously where the person is not at all aware that he/she is doing it. In extreme cases, some people bite their nails while sleeping. Sometimes people do bite very hard, so hard that the shape of their nails is altered. This happens in case of a bad dream or stress when dreaming. Nail biting is a symptom of oral fixation according to the Freudian theory. The medical term for nail biting is chronic onychophagia. Nail biting is observed in nearly all stages of life. An estimated percentage is as follows: About 30% in the age group of 7 to 10 years old, 45% of adolescents, 25% in young adults and about 10% in older adults. Nail biting is more common amongst younger males. So what is the harm in nail biting? Some of the most important reasons to stop nailing biting are: Nail biting paves the way for bacteria that reside below the nails surface. They are difficult to clean and enter your mouth easily, which in turn can cause a viral infection. The bacteria may spread throughout the body as it’s mixed with saliva. Fingertips, which are bitten, are often sensitive to pain as the soft skin is left exposed. Russian researchers have stated that children who habitually bite their nails have a low IQ. Those who are working with materials such as iron, paint may end up poisoning themselves because nail biting ensures that the chemicals enter the bloodstream through open wounds. There are many simple ways to avoid nail biting. One can visit a doctor and get the nails examined. Take a picture of your bitten nails and imagine how would they look when they are healthy and clean. If you can’t quit biting all your nails at once, select one nail, which you would not bite and after few days you will have a fully grown and clean nail. This is your reward for not biting the nails. This can motivate you to stop nail biting. Eating calcium and magnesium tablets will help you. Distract yourself with a hobby where you can keep your hands busy. Nail biting can harm your health and honestly a set of such shoddy hands is certainly not a healthy site. Hypnosis is a fantastic way to stop biting your nails and nowadays the process is available in easy to use hypnosis downloads in MP3 format. Using these downloads, you can get the results that you desire and all in the comfort of your owns home. These hypnosis downloads are also just a fraction of the price of going and seeing a hypnotherapist locally. So will you get the results that you want today and stop biting your nails?
This is part 2 of a two-part series, and to save time and effort, we’ll take a moment to review the highlights of part 1. If you’re like me, and you feel compelled to read both parts, check the archives for “Notes From A Hypnotist: How To Repair A Broken New Year’s Resolution” by Wendy Lapidus-Saltz. Here are the highlights of part 1: There are essentially five reasons that most New Year’s resolutions come undone quickly. All have to do with how and why you made your resolution in the first place, and the level of support you’re getting from yourself and others in following through. The reasons are: 1. You made your resolution too complicated or severe 2. It’s all about what you won’t do (not over-drink, not overeat, not sit in front of the TV too much) instead of what you will do (eat perfect portions, emphasize healthy foods, exercises x times a week) —most people require both 3. Your resolution denies a need or desire without providing a beneficial substitution 4. You expect to feel deprived, and thereby pre-program yourself to feel that way 5. You set yourself up to get no support (or only negative support) from others Now let’s talk about how to succeed rather than fail in creating a great new year. Define What Success Is If you want to be in a fulfilling job this coming year, you need to define what that is for you. The more detail, the better. It’s okay to remove (thoughtfully) some of the requirements you set if they are unrealistic, but you do need a guideline for what you truly desire. Specificity rules! Choose Flexibility And Learn How To Create It There are areas in which you can be flexible. Inflexibility in these areas may guarantee failure, and keep you from stretching yourself. For some, being flexible is hard. Usually it gets down to fears. Fear that they can’t stretch or change, can’t learn new ways, and believe they require more routine, rigidness, and —– than is actually the case. At work, flexibility grants greater opportunity, opportunities to learn, stretch and enlarge talents. You are less likely to be labeled old, redundant, out-of-step, and non-adaptive, and more likely to be regarded as creative, innovative, and essential, and a useful team member or leader. Even if you feel scared to try learning new skills, you can decide you are putting yourself in training to flex more. Offer yourself up for new tasks, teams, and to cover new needs for which few have the training. You’ll keep yourself young, smart, and employed. In your personal life, especially in creating resolutions to go forward into the new year, and make it better than the old, flexibility allows…. Create Healthy Rewards For Successes The classic ways to change behavior are the carrot and the stick. The first rewards successes while the second punishes “failures.” A great many of us, when we are coaching ourselves rather than others, choose the stick as our sole behavior-change method. But most of us require encouragement or we’ll give up. Don’t be afraid to offer yourself a carrot, at least sometimes. It will make you feel good and enthusiastic about doing more. Do be sure the rewards are healthy. If your goal is weight loss, for instance, and you lose three pounds, don’t use a box of chocolate as the reward. Consider clothing that shows of your body, exercise gear that rewards your progress, or something that’s simply pleasurable: a massage, walk in the park, a new CD. Build Your Team You don’t need to go it alone. Find others serious about the same endeavor, and find out if they’d be willing to get together and offer mutual support. Or find supportive friends who are simply willing to call and check your progress and give you a big thumbs-up every so often. Do be sure they are your champions (“Keep going—you can do it!”) Keep Secrets From Nay Sayers The converse of supporters are those are motivation killers. They say things like“You don’t need to lose weight, you’re just fine” or “Why would you ever want to train for a marathon?” Some are far more subtle in their destructive work, so you need to be careful. They are likely jealous of your possible success and guilty about not doing it themselves. To them you are a symbol of their weakness, ineptitude or laziness, and an ongoing reminder that the feat can be done. And they themselves are not doing it. Keep your new activity secret from them, especially in the beginning, when your resolve is still vulnerable. However, if someone brings up a valid concern like “Is it safe to start a running program just two weeks after surgery?” simply take it as a hint to consult with your doctor, and thank him or her for caring. Emphasize Fun, Freedom, & Choice, Not Deprivation In many endeavors, your mindset in the strongest indicator of the potential for success. If you go into it with a sense of adventure and experimentation, willing to adjust along the way, you’re halfway there. The other half is choosing the endeavor rather than forcing yourself into it. Consider enticing yourself to do the necessary activities the way you might with a child who needs to clean his/her room. Or even a pet that is being taught a new trick. (Yes, I’m completely serious!) Paint a positive, alluring picture of the work that needs to be done. Especially the rewards, benefits and triumphs available upon completion. Handle the bumps along the way as learning opportunities and good material once you get to the top of your mountain. If it all happened perfectly and automatically what stories would there be to tell your grandchildren? ©2008 by Wendy Lapidus-Saltz. All rights reserved. Missed the Part 1 of this article? See Part 1, “Notes From A Hypnotist: How To Repair A Broken New Year’s Resolution.”